Just like I wrote about my name not too long ago, it occurred to me I should write about being non-monogamous.

At this point, it’s not about showing the world who I am and what I am. As NK would jokingly say, I’m a “grumpy old man” who doesn’t care what people think about that anyway.

But I don’t want to keep people guessing or scratching their heads either, especially when I use the term “my partner” or switch between “he” and"them" when I talk about them - my partners. Of which I have two.

And that’s the other thing. I don’t talk much about my partners; as a matter of fact, I’ve been avoiding it. A habit of keeping my non-monogamous status a secret from days past.

For example, I wanted to write about a bit of a medical situation with Nat (my other partner, and he’s fine, by the way) this morning, but I didn’t. Part of it is his privacy, sure, but the part about me, how I tie into this and what I did, that’s my story too. When you hang around your significant others for over 10 years, you have a lot of stories to share that involve them too.

For now, I’ll tell you there’s NK (they/them) and Nat (he/him). They are both awesome and different in their own ways, and I love them both to bits.

We don’t have a perfect life together; we have a realistic one. We go through hardships, we pay bills, we do the daily grind, and we have a love/hate relationship with NYC.